While culling up this article I was just recalling all those chicks on my now deleted snapshot apps who showed us snaps of irrelevant things about them and their boyfriend doing stuff no one cared about. I’d see pictures with captions like “BAE and I smooching”, “bae and I on a date night” etc. Now don’t get me wrong, showing off your bae isn’t bad but there should be a line.
1. DON’T RANT ABOUT YOUR FIGHTS ONLINE: You might be in the heat of an argument and know that you’re right, but your partner’s stubborn attitude keeps him or her from giving in for at least a few more hours. You may want to get a second opinion from your pals online—to prove a point or get consolation in the moment, but resist the urge. Not only is it tacky and probably makes your friends feel some TMI vibes, but it can be incredibly hurtful to your partner and have a lasting effect on your reputation. ‘Never put your significant other down on social media, or talk about a fight that the two of you had or are having,’ Michael explains. ‘When that argument is over, you may seriously regret saying anything because now people are going to have a negative impression of your partner. Just like telling your mom about the fight you had last night with your partner and then when you see mom for the holidays you wonder why she is not being nice to that person? Same applies to social media, it is not the outlet to air your arguments or dislikes about your partner.
2. POSTING YOUR BREAKUP: Spare everyone the gory details, which are more than likely to be TMI or sour grapes. If you and your partner break up, the emotional mess is enough to clean up without having to field comments and advice from the online peanut gallery. ‘Keep it simple. If it’s over, it’s over. ‘Posting about how you got dumped shouldn’t be public knowledge. Just change your relationship status to ‘Single’ when and if you call it quits to signal that you’re on the market again. Keep the vicious details to yourself.’
3. YOUR ULTRASOUND PICTURES: First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the creative, new way you’ll announce your pregnancy on Facebook. While OB-GYNs often suggest waiting until your second trimester to share the happy news with friends and relatives because your risk of miscarriage is lower, updating your social media accounts with an ultrasound might be taking your photo albums too far. The blurry, almost-alien like photo might be the cutest, most amazing image you’ve ever seen, but your followers might find it awkward. ‘It’s great that you’re announcing you’re pregnant, but do you have to post a photo of your unborn baby on social media? It violates my ‘Rules of Netiquette’ as something that makes some people uncomfortable.
4. KISSING PICTURES: Say you’re the friend who’s been forever single. You’ve had all the terrible dates and lonely nights, and magically, wonderfully, you’ve found someone you want to spend your life with. Your besties are ecstatic for you—truly—but if you post one-too-many kissing selfies, they’re likely to raise an eyebrow. ‘Posting a mushy selfie may be fine if you do it once, but for people who overshare their tongue-in-mouth ceremony, I say don’t kiss and Tel. ‘We want to be happy that things are going well for you, up to a point.’ Not only does seeing your romantic, physical moments feel a bit intrusive, but it can be painful for people who maybe haven’t been as lucky in love. ‘Your single friends might get uncomfortable—call it FOMO or jealousy.
5. ANYTHING PERSONAL ABOUT THEM: All of those feel-good hormones that are produced from sexual affection and mutual attraction make the simplest qualities about your partner pretty freakin’ adorable—from how he sticks out his tongue when he’s thinking to how she hums rap tunes while she’s cooking. But instead of sharing these personal details with all of your FB friends (and thus, their extended network too), you not only lessen your intimacy, but you could make your partner uncomfortable. ‘You can post things that are personal about you if you want, but don’t post things that are personal about your significant other because it becomes an invasion of their privacy.
6. SHOWING OFF EXPENSIVE GIFTS: Sure, you’re psyched about the swanky gift your partner just gave you—ruby earrings, Louis Vuitton duffle bag, or ginormous TV—but to friends who are living more hand to mouth, it can come across shallow and ungrateful. ‘We are all on different budgets, and if your beau is lavishing you with diamonds and expensive gifts, posting photos of the latest acquisition will turn people off. ‘Many people are struggling financially, and they look to social media to get cheered up, so seeing posts of things we can’t afford comes off as superficial. Bragging on social media is a netiquette no-no.’ It could also be an insult to your partner, who is likely wrapping up these moments of joy to share with you personally, not for you to boast about for everyone to see online. And finally, it could make you and your significant other a target for theft.